Family Ishews

I think Felix is close to proposing to me. The last couple of weeks he's been bringing up things that he normally wouldn't and trying to act all normal about it. It's got me thinking about my dad who hates my boyfriend with a passion. It's really sad, but that's my dad and that's who he's always been. Felix and I have been together since I was 15 and I've always thought he would just accept it by now; it seems like he never will.

For my 21st birthday my dad told me that if my mum was there then he wouldn't come. I consequently had a small and unimpressive (so unlike me) birthday party due to depression and anxiety not being able to please everyone. My mum said that she wouldn't come so that dad could but seriously? Fuck that. He's the one who said he wouldn't come and why should my mum suffer.

It was nice but it was understated which is not what I'm about.

So now the next big event of my 20s is in my mind- my wedding. I can tell you right now that my dad will not come. I go through phases of just not caring at all and displacing myself from the reality that my dad hates my boyfriend and my mum and it seems like it's mainly because I used to live with my mum and I currently live with my boyfriend. If it was up to my dad I'd live with him. Even now.

Jake is my 15 year old brother and I feel so guilty for leaving him with my dad, even though his custody is nothing to do with me. Mum and dad are supposed to have 50/50 custody but dad only allows him to come to mum's house every 2nd weekend. Mum doesn't want to cause waves and upset Jake while he's in highschool but I can tell it's fucking with him.

How am I supposed to deal with the guilt of thinking my dad will kill himself when I announce mine and Felixs' engagement (I'm not even overstating here- he was once missing and had a gun on his person). How am I supposed to deal with the guilt of leaving my little brother with someone who is mentally unfit?

I know what you're thinking. You don't deal with it because you shouldn't be feeling guilty at all. I know that but the fact is; I do feel guilty.

Perhaps I should go and see someone professional instead of whinging on the interwebs. At any rate- Jake said he'd "bash" dad for me if he was shit at my wedding. He's a good brother.

Mirena IUD- an ongoing challenge

I've put off writing about this because of the horror stories I've heard and myself trying to keep an open mind but I think that what the interwebs needs is an ongoing week-by-week story of how the Mirena is effecting a normal person without the horror stories.

I had the Mirena implanted on the 5th of Feb 2010 while having a diagnostic lap for endometriosis. I've had laps before for endo but not for a couple of years, so when I got back from Dubai worried about my future fertility I saw a really awesome and a little eccentric gynecologist who decided to do a diagnostic lap to see how it's all going. I asked about the Mirena because ick, I don't want kids for at least 5 years AND condoms suck. Oral contraceptives left me emotional and bloated so I was really ready for anything. My doctor said it was an awesome idea so we went ahead!

At this point I must point out that due to my random fucked up ovaries, my doctor has decided to induce menopause for 6 months to try and shrink my baby makers and get them to move back to position or some such bullshit. She just wants to torture me, so some things that I'm going through are not what other people will experience. Most of them are really not related to the IUD (such as hot flushes which already suck) and some of them will be exaggerated because of the extra whore-moans (such as aching in the joints).

So after the operation I had a small amount of bleeding which is normal when it's first inserted and all was good. Though in the last week or so I've experienced very intense cramping in the lower abdomen and legs for some bloody reason. It's not like period pain and it's not like a normal cramp... It's just seriously horribly intense and hot and painful. I think it's normal but that doesn't make it any better. The only thing that's helping at the moment is controlling my breathing and Voltaren. And even that's not very helpful.

Anyway, I think this is when I'm supposed to be having a period so hopefully it won't be constantly like this. Apart from the cramping I've only experienced some mood swings (Felix would say that this is reason enough to have it removed... But I think it's kind of like an adventure!) And for some reason I've had a really oily face? Weird. But I can wash my face and not scream and all is well.

Anyway, I'll try make this a week-by-week thing to update. I know I would appreciate this kind of thing while I'm looking up the Mirena because I can only find horror stories (about people's hair falling out! Ick!)

Keeping an open mind. Gabriella

Brodie Panlock

I must say, as someone who has experienced workplace bullying and school yard bullying I can tell you which gets the most heat and which affected me more.

I'm talking about workplace bullying. I suppose it's the fact that you're working and you're older now and you shouldn't have to put up with that kind of crap anymore.

Brodie Panlock jumped off a 4 story building because of workplace bullying and it's just disgraceful that the people involved have only been fined. Like fineing someone punishes them enough for being involved in the death of a teenager.

Here's a link to the story.

A coroner heard at Brodie's inquest that Smallwood and waiter Rhys McAlpine were "relentless in their efforts to demean her".

Who are these people and how can they live with themselves?

Okay, so it's been 1 day since I had an operation so please excuse me if I'm making no sense. They gave me some lovely painkillers which was just lovely of them.

And I don't believe in proof reading. If I didn't type it right the first time than it obviously wasn't that important.


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I finally feel like I have my life in order! Felix has *finally* got a job as a trainee manager at a large international company which is just so fucking exciting. He looks so sexy in a suit.

AND I enrolled in a graphic design course. I'm going to have a degree! A diploma and perhaps in the future a BACHELOR!

I'm just so happy. My life is going in the direction I wanted it to go from the start. And plus my hair looks pretty fab at the moment I must say... Well... Not at this moment. Since I've pretty much been asleep for 2 or 3 days? I'm not sure.

Incase you're wondering, the doctor said my scar tissue blah blah personal bits are all stuck together so she's putting me in MENOPAUSE? for 6 months with the Mirena IUD. It's so confusing but I'm not going to question her as she should know what she's doing.

It hurts. I'm going to lay down for a while now. Ta!

I'm feeling pretty shit to be honest. My hips are so fucked up right now I'm laying on a matress in the middle of the loungeroom with the A/C on, headpack on my hip and painkillers in my stomach. I didn't take my really strong ones because I thought it was going to be okay but now it's gotten worse and I really wish I'd taken the strong ones now.I'm trying not to think about my future too much, but I'm also trying to increase my opportunities. I'm thinking of doing a certificate in business to become a legal secretary because I've got no other prospects at the moment, and I like law... It costs $2500 and I'm not sure if the government will help me, if not then I'm just fucked.What can I do with my life, really? I've been thinking of apprenticeships in like cheffing or bakers or something but I'm just not passionate... I don't know. I'm pretty upset about the whole thing to be honest.

Sorry about lack of input into this post.

New Years Resolutions:

• Lose weight (of course)
• Earn lotsa bux
• Go to Las Vegas
• Go to Singapore
• Move out
• Be sucessful

Hey Brididgydidge, my adopted sister. I know Georgia was joking when she put you up for adoption in exchange for Jack (crazy) but I sure wasn't. I was so desperate for a little baby sister and Georgia had 2! I've always been jealous of your family, you guys are so happy (plus, the whole awesomeness red hair thing is ju...st grouse). When I lost you I lost a part of myself and I haven't been able to get it back. I don't think I ever will and that makes me sad.

I've got a theory that people who die young always know that they're going to die young, and that's why they're always awesome. Only good people seem to die. No one dies and you think "man that guy was a real cock". You are and always will be the most honest and real person I know.I still don't believe you're gone, bec...ause you're right with me every single day. Thanks for looking out for all of us down here on Earth, because God knows we need it without you to guide us.I love you. My little adopted sister. I promise to look after the ones left behind.

P.sss I ate all the yellow m&ms.

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I messaged Georgia and told her I'm thinking of her and her family today. She messaged back saying "thanks heaps". I'm so happy we're talking again, she lives just around the corner from me. She's looking really thin and sick, and she said she's been to the doctors about it.

I cried a LOT last night and couldn't get to sleep. I could feel Bridget's presence with me and that made me feel a lot better.

I'm going to get a heart tattoo behind my ear. And it's not gunna hurt.